For me, by prioritizing what's more important in my life helps in this situation. I made a ranking in my mind: 1. Family, 2. Myself, 3. Work so whenever I'm facing situation to choose this ranking will be what I will take reference from. It is something like choosing between what's a Need and what's a Want for me.
Recently, I came to realize that I'm not treating my wife properly whenever she asked me to take photo for her when I brought her and my kid out over the weekends. I don't really like to take photo and it irritates me a lot... However, the thought of her making sacrifices to take care our kid and taking photo is the only hobby she have crossed my mind so I told myself: " Taking photo is not a difficult job and taking care of the kid is not a one-man job, it's a team effort." I'm quite surprised that after this mindset change, my attitude towards taking photo for her changed as well. XD
I'm just sharing my thoughts and not an advice for you. Finding that balance is important and I hope you can find yours too!
I know exactly what you mean, and I have an internal prioritisation thing too and my family sits up top just like you. (I've also had the same irritation when being asked to take photos for Charlane btw, and that too went away when I recalled my priorities.)
What's hard for me is when I expect a block of time to be mine (e.g. when the baby is asleep and my wife is busy doing something else or is also sleeping) and then it gets taken away. That's when this internal prioritisation gets questioned - like, okay, sure, family first. But family first ALL the time?! I know that's not possible. I need time for me. And when I put in the effort to make time for me, an effort that I try not to make without having any negative implications on my family (like passing on the burden of caring for the baby to my wife, for example), and *still* fail to have that time? Yeah, that's when I get upset.
I guess I don't treat Me time as an important thing or I took it lightly when I got disrupted but I get you. It is annoying when you planned for something and get disrupted half way through. All I can say is life doesn't always go as planned... [Music enters: Always look on the bright side of life doo loo doo loo doo loo doo loo~]
For me, by prioritizing what's more important in my life helps in this situation. I made a ranking in my mind: 1. Family, 2. Myself, 3. Work so whenever I'm facing situation to choose this ranking will be what I will take reference from. It is something like choosing between what's a Need and what's a Want for me.
Recently, I came to realize that I'm not treating my wife properly whenever she asked me to take photo for her when I brought her and my kid out over the weekends. I don't really like to take photo and it irritates me a lot... However, the thought of her making sacrifices to take care our kid and taking photo is the only hobby she have crossed my mind so I told myself: " Taking photo is not a difficult job and taking care of the kid is not a one-man job, it's a team effort." I'm quite surprised that after this mindset change, my attitude towards taking photo for her changed as well. XD
I'm just sharing my thoughts and not an advice for you. Finding that balance is important and I hope you can find yours too!
It's great to know that you managed to rise above and change your attitude towards taking pictures for your wife! :)
I know exactly what you mean, and I have an internal prioritisation thing too and my family sits up top just like you. (I've also had the same irritation when being asked to take photos for Charlane btw, and that too went away when I recalled my priorities.)
What's hard for me is when I expect a block of time to be mine (e.g. when the baby is asleep and my wife is busy doing something else or is also sleeping) and then it gets taken away. That's when this internal prioritisation gets questioned - like, okay, sure, family first. But family first ALL the time?! I know that's not possible. I need time for me. And when I put in the effort to make time for me, an effort that I try not to make without having any negative implications on my family (like passing on the burden of caring for the baby to my wife, for example), and *still* fail to have that time? Yeah, that's when I get upset.
I guess I don't treat Me time as an important thing or I took it lightly when I got disrupted but I get you. It is annoying when you planned for something and get disrupted half way through. All I can say is life doesn't always go as planned... [Music enters: Always look on the bright side of life doo loo doo loo doo loo doo loo~]